by Dr. Karen Lindwall-Bourg | Jan 31, 2020 | Entrepreneur Endeavors
Be an Entrepreneur with GUMPTION!
It takes great gumption to start, build and grow a successful business. It is not for sissies or the faint of heart. It is an extreme adventure with various ups and downs.
The best moments in your business journey are when the ideas are coming, the product is selling, and the customers are happy. The best times are when the progress you are making is apparent and measurable.
Then there are the other times. In real life, it gets terribly tough. There are times when the progress is not what you want it to be – or there is no evident progress at all. Setbacks come and your plan doesn’t work out like you hoped. It is so easy to become discouraged and give up.
Fight discouragement and despair with these tips:
GET GUMPTION! DON’T GIVE UP
And let us not grow weary of doing good, for in due season we will reap, if we do not give up. Galatians 6:9 ESV
It’s been said that building a business is a lesson in personal growth as much as it is about business. Every entrepreneur knows the frightening and exciting truth of this statement. Part of that personal growth involves not allowing discouragement to take root and become despair. Discouragement can be a first step toward giving up.
Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be frightened, and do not be dismayed, for the Lord your God is with you wherever you go. Joshua 1:9
Do not be frightened! Do not be dismayed!
You must stir up courage and strengthen by reminding yourself that the Lord is with you wherever you go. God is always with you. So, whether you succeed or fail, you have not lost that which matters the most, blessed fellowship with God. It is that fellowship which strengthens your faith and renews your spirit and brings you out of discouragement.
GET GUMPTION! DOUBLE-CHECK YOUR PLAN
Sometimes the reason you aren’t seeing progress is because you have drifted off the purposed path.
I set two big purpose-filled goals at the beginning of the year. I break them down into monthly steps or tasks. I diligently review them daily. However, even with all the good-intentioned review, I often find myself easily distracted.
There are times when divinely inspired ideas come. Those ideas are important for my business development, but they are for later. In those times when I am not seeing progress, I revisit my major goals and passions. I also check my motivation and to-do list with these questions:
- Is this task in line with my principal passions?
- Is this task relevant to my primary overarching goals?
- Is this something pressing that needs to be done right now?
- Am I allowing this task to distract me from that purpose-filled task, that “something” I need to do, but I just don’t want to do? (Yikes! I live in this statement way too often! I can find lots of reasons to procrastinate!)
We all get off track at times, but don’t lose heart!
And we know that for those who love God all things work together for good, for those who are called according to his purpose. Romans 8:28
GET GUMPTION! PRAY THROUGH PROGRESS
In those times when progress is slow or not evident – pray. In the times when progress is moderate and things are falling into place – pray. In the times when progress is swift and business is growing speedily – pray!
Prayer is what keeps your fire lit. It is the foundation of perseverance and strength. Prayer is the secret to banishing doubt.
Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make straight your paths. Be not wise in your own eyes; fear the Lord, and turn away from evil. It will be healing to your flesh and refreshment to your bones. Proverbs 3:5-8
Part of not leaning on your own understanding is praying about everything instead of worrying (Philippians 4:6-7). Part of getting your path straight is acknowledging God in all you do through prayer, worship and giving thanks.
As Christian business leaders, God cannot be absent from your business. Having God as part of your business involves including Him fully in the everyday decision making as well as the big goals.
So when the going gets tough and the progress gets slow, keep going and build yourself up in faith and in the strength of the Lord.
What are some of the ways you handle slow progress in your business? Where do you Get Gumption?
I want to hear from you!
Blessings,
Karen Lindwall-Bourg
“Achieve Levels of Success Worth Celebrating”
*Founder, Karen Bourg Companies http://karenbourg.com
*Owner, President {Inter}National Association of Christian Women Entrepreneurs/International Christian Mompreneur Network http://nacwe.org
*Founder, RHEMA Publishing House http://rhemapublishinghouse.com
*Founder, RHEMA Lakeside Retreat Center https://www.facebook.com/rhemaretreat/
*Founder, RHEMA Counseling Associates http://rhemacounseling.com
About Karen Lindwall-Bourg
Karen Lindwall-Bourg is the President of the {Inter} National Association of Christian Women Entrepreneurs [est. May 2010] and the new President of the International Christian Mompreneur Network [est. July 2010], both at http://nacwe.org . She and the NACWE Operations and Leadership Teams work diligently to provide
· Community
· Networking
· Education
· Missions
opportunities to Christian Women Entrepreneurs, Mompreneurs and Nanapreneurs alike all over the world!
Our Core Values are
· Community – we value Connection, Collaboration and Contribution
· Networking – we value Nurture, New relationships and New and innovative offers
· Education – we value Encouragement, Excellence and Expressiveness, and
· Missions – we value Ministry and Making a difference
Karen is wife to Fred, Mommy to 6 kids and 5 in-loves, Nana to “going-on” 12 grandchildren, and treat provider deluxe for a herd of Great Pyrenees who protect their north TX ranch! She is an entrepreneur coach, author, publisher, retreat hostess and more! Learn more about Mastermind groups and “Celebration” coaching with Karen at http://karenbourg.com
by Dr. Karen Lindwall-Bourg | Jan 31, 2020 | Blog, Celebrate Life!
Preparing for Marriage
11 Top Issues in Premarital Counseling
If all you’ve thought about is the wedding and not the marriage, then you might need to think again. (Renae Willis)
Couples spend a lot of time and money preparing for marriage. There is a great deal of excitement and romance surrounding the union of the beloved. Every detail is fussed over from the color of flowers to the placement of every hair on your head. Everything is considered! Too often we spend all our time focused on the wedding and we forget about the marriage.
In between the dress fittings and seating charts, be sure to take some time with your beloved to explore some fundamental questions for your life together after the ceremony is over.
First,
Study God’s Word Together
Especially the roles and duties of a husband and wife found in
Ephesians 5:22-31;
1 Corinthians 7:16;
Colossians 3:18-19,
Titus 2:1-5, and
1 Peter 3:1-7.
Are there any red flags or major doctrinal disagreements?
Then,
Consider Some Top Issues
FAMILY
How much time will we spend with each others family? For the Holidays? For Birthdays?
How will we handle family planning? Timeline for children?
How will we find time for one another when work becomes demanding and life gets in the way?
WORK
What is our dream job?
What is the plan if one of us gets laid off?
How much of a priority is work to us?
Do we have any intentions of continuing our education?
MONEY
How much is considered a large cost purchase?
How will we decide on large cost purchases?
Will we have savings goals? Purchase goals?
How will we handle financial disagreements?
MARRIAGE
What do we imagine the first year of marriage will look like?
How much time will we spend together?
How often do you think we will have sex?
How will we handle disappointment/dissatisfaction?
What most stands in the way of creating a passionate and caring marriage?
HEALTH
How do we behave when we are sick?
What are our expectations of each other when we are sick?
What is our plan for being healthy and fit?
Do we have expectations about how we will eat?
APPEARANCE
What is our favorite way to spend a lazy day?
What is important about our physical appearance?
How would we handle changes in physical appearance?
FRIENDS
How will we spend time with friends?
How much time do we need with friends?
Is it important that I like your friends new and old?
PETS
Is it important for us to have pets?
What kind of care do we expects pets to receive?
Will we treat pets as family members?
POLITICS & LAW
How important is it for us to agree politically?
How do we feel about breaking the law?
What are our feelings about city/local politics and our involvement?
RELIGION
How often do we want to attend church?
Is it important to volunteer at church?
How do we go about finding a church we both like?
What are our expectations spiritually?
COMMUNICATION
Will we fight fair?
What constitutes and hampers our joy and passion?
What refreshes our mind, body, and spirit?
What makes our heart smile in tough times?
What makes us feel the most alive?
You can ask all the questions on earth to try and prepare yourself for marriage. However, one of the biggest and most important things you can do to prepare is commit to one another. Be willing to work through the hard times. Be willing to dig in and hold on for dear life when the storms come. It may seem like cliché advice but a willingness to work it out puts you in a mindset to listen, forgive, compromise, and love.
Finally, I recommend Premarital Counseling for all engaged couples.
And don’t forget to put Christ First in your lives and in your marriage!
If you’re single, and you want to know who to marry, run as hard and as fast toward Jesus as you can and if, out of the corner of your eye, you see somebody running in the same direction, take a second look. (Pastor Tommy Nelson)
Blessings:
The Lord bless you and keep you as a couple preparing for marriage;
The Lord make His face shine upon you,
And be gracious to you;
The Lord lift up His countenance upon you,
And give you peace and a marriage that pleases Him!
Karen Lindwall-Bourg
“Achieve Levels of Success Worth Celebrating”
*Founder, Karen Bourg Companies http://karenbourg.com
*Owner, President {Inter}National Association of Christian Women Entrepreneurs/International Christian Mompreneur Network http://nacwe.org
*Founder, RHEMA Publishing House http://rhemapublishinghouse.com
*Founder, RHEMA Lakeside Retreat Center https://www.facebook.com/rhemaretreat/
*Founder, RHEMA Counseling Associates http://rhemacounseling.com
About Karen Lindwall-Bourg
Karen Lindwall-Bourg is the President of the {Inter} National Association of Christian Women Entrepreneurs [est. May 2010] and the new President of the International Christian Mompreneur Network [est. July 2010], both at http://nacwe.org . She and the NACWE Operations and Leadership Teams work diligently to provide
· Community
· Networking
· Education
· Missions
opportunities to Christian Women Entrepreneurs, Mompreneurs and Nanapreneurs alike all over the world!
Our Core Values are
· Community – we value Connection, Collaboration and Contribution
· Networking – we value Nurture, New relationships and New and innovative offers
· Education – we value Encouragement, Excellence and Expressiveness, and
· Missions – we value Ministry and Making a difference
Karen is wife to Fred, Mommy to 6 kids and 5 in-loves, Nana to “going-on” 12 grandchildren, and treat provider deluxe for a herd of Great Pyrenees who protect their north TX ranch! She is an entrepreneur coach, author, publisher, retreat hostess and more! Learn more about Mastermind groups and “Celebration” coaching with Karen at http://karenbourg.com
by Dr. Karen Lindwall-Bourg | Jan 31, 2020 | Blog
What Do You Do with the WHYS in Counseling?
Does the question “why” cause you to be stuck as you counsel people Biblically or does the question “why” encourage you toward a diligent search for God’s answers?
Dave Powlison in X-ray Questions: Drawing Out the Whys and Wherefores of Human Behavior (The Journal of Biblical Counseling • Volume 18 • Number 1 • Fall 1999) says, “explanations are signposts to solutions…” The Bible has a lot to say about our questions of why and our human motivations and the answers all point to the Redeemer. God’s Word searches out the “thoughts and intentions of the heart” and God evaluates what he sees in us (Hebrews 4:12). Good questions can help discern the patterns of a person’s motivation and identify the idols of our hearts.
Ed Welch in Why Ask, “Why?” Four Types of Causes in Counseling (The Journal of Pastoral Practice, Vol. X, No. 3, 1991) encourages us to consider, not to discount, “why” questions in counseling. He uses Aristotle’s “different types of causes” (from his Physics treatise) to illustrate and encourage the use of the question “why” in Biblical Counseling sessions.
Encourage the WHY questions!
Consider the question, “Why are you so angry?”
a. The material cause includes the tangible, physical components of an object or event.
Answer: I am anxious and on medication, it runs in my family, or my hormones are imbalanced.
A Biblical response: each of us is created as three part beings – body, soul, and spirit. Be aware that there are sometimes physical causes and a physician may need to be consulted. However, physical maladies do not make us sin and cannot be held as the exclusive cause of our actions.
b. The efficient cause consists of the events that come before the anger.
Answer: I’m angry because of the way I was treated as a child, my spouse offended me, or my children misbehave.
A Biblical response: Other people and past events do affect us and our personal history does make a difference. We are sinned against and we do sin against others. Yet, people and past events do not make us sin and cannot be held as the exclusive cause of our actions.
c. The formal cause is the blueprint or structure of the anger.
Answer: I’m only human, my sin nature, or my personality type.
A Biblical response: we all have a certain design that establishes the parameters of our behavior and limitations. Nevertheless, our design does not make us sin and cannot be held as the exclusive cause of our actions.
d. The incidental cause is the unknown, ambiguous, or mysterious.
Answer: I don’t know.
A Biblical response: The Bible talks of the mystery, the things we cannot know or understand. Still, the frustration of not knowing does not make us sin and cannot be held as the exclusive cause of our actions.
Consider the passage where messengers from John the Baptist approach Jesus.
“When Jesus had finished instructing his twelve disciples, he went on from there to teach and preach in their cities. Now when John heard in prison about the deeds of the Christ, he sent word by his disciples and said to him, “Are you the one who is to come, or shall we look for another?” And Jesus answered them, “Go and tell John what you hear and see: the blind receive their sight and the lame walk, lepers are cleansed and the deaf hear, and the dead are raised up, and the poor have good news preached to them. And blessed is the one who is not offended by me.” – Matthew 11:1-6 (For a greater understanding, read the Prisoner in the Third Cell – Gene Edwards)
Bible Whys:
Scripture contains almost 500 “why” questions, some voiced by God Himself, some by angels, some from men. Some are followed immediately by His answers; other answers come in context. Evaluate the following passages to see how the question of “why” is addressed in the Bible:
- “And he said to them, “Why are you afraid, O you of little faith?” Then he rose and rebuked the winds and the sea, and there was a great calm.” Matthew 8:26
- [The Purpose of the Parables] Then the disciples came and said to him, “Why do you speak to them in parables?” This is why I speak to them in parables, “because seeing they do not see, and hearing they do not hear, nor do they understand.” (Matthew 13:10, 13)
- Whoever is of God hears the words of God. The reason why you do not hear them is that “you are not of God.” (John 8:47)
- See what kind of love the Father has given to us, that we should be called children of God; and so we are. The reason why the world does not know us is that it did not know him. (1 John 3:1)
- We should not be like Cain, who was of the evil one and murdered his brother. And why did he murder him? Because his own deeds were evil and his brother’s righteous.
- God sustains and directs persons for the purpose of bringing Him glory – God himself directs the hearts of his people “like a watercourse wherever he pleases.” (Proverbs 21:1) God himself is the true final cause.
e. The final why has to do with the purpose and motives of our hearts when angry.
Answer: I wanted something but I didn’t get it, or I wanted no one above myself telling me what to do (parents, teachers, or God himself.)
A biblical response: address moral responsibility and offer hope for change. James 4:1 says, “What causes fights and quarrels among you? Don’t they come from your desires that battle within you?” The goal is to receive lasting change which comes only when the heart and its goals or intentions is called to repentance. Ultimately our goal is either living to exalt self or living to the glory of God. Real change comes through adopting a new purpose that consists of repentance, faith, and obedience.
The Bible has a lot to say about our questions of why and our human motivations and the answers all point to the Redeemer. Let the question “why” encourage you toward a diligent search for God’s answers! What do you do with the “whys” in counseling?
Blessings,
Karen Lindwall-Bourg
“Achieve Levels of Success Worth Celebrating”
*Founder, Karen Bourg Companies http://karenbourg.com
*Owner, President {Inter}National Association of Christian Women Entrepreneurs/International Christian Mompreneur Network http://nacwe.org
*Founder, RHEMA Publishing House http://rhemapublishinghouse.com
*Founder, RHEMA Lakeside Retreat Center https://www.facebook.com/rhemaretreat/
*Founder, RHEMA Counseling Associates http://rhemacounseling.com
About Karen Lindwall-Bourg
Karen Lindwall-Bourg is the President of the {Inter} National Association of Christian Women Entrepreneurs [est. May 2010] and the new President of the International Christian Mompreneur Network [est. July 2010], both at http://nacwe.org . She and the NACWE Operations and Leadership Teams work diligently to provide
· Community
· Networking
· Education
· Missions
opportunities to Christian Women Entrepreneurs, Mompreneurs and Nanapreneurs alike all over the world!
Our Core Values are
· Community – we value Connection, Collaboration and Contribution
· Networking – we value Nurture, New relationships and New and innovative offers
· Education – we value Encouragement, Excellence and Expressiveness, and
· Missions – we value Ministry and Making a difference
Karen is wife to Fred, Mommy to 6 kids and 5 in-loves, Nana to “going-on” 12 grandchildren, and treat provider deluxe for a herd of Great Pyrenees who protect their north TX ranch! She is an entrepreneur coach, author, publisher, retreat hostess and more! Learn more about Mastermind groups and “Celebration” coaching with Karen at http://karenbourg.com .
by Dr. Karen Lindwall-Bourg | Oct 26, 2019 | Blog, Celebrate Life!
The need for premarital counseling.
If all you’ve thought about is the wedding and not the marriage, then you might need to think again. (Renae Willis)
I found this on old papers and immediately recognized it as a paper that was circulated from my college days!
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ON HIS PLAN FOR YOUR MATE
Everyone longs to give themselves to someone – to have a deep, soul relationship with another, to be loved thoroughly, and exclusively.
But, God, to a Christian says,
“No, not until you are satisfied and fulfilled and content with living loved by Me alone, while giving yourself totally, unreservedly to Me alone… I love you, my child. And until you discover that only in Me is your satisfaction to be found, you will not be capable of the perfect human relationship that I have planned for you. You will never be united with another until you are united with Me – exclusive of anyone or anything else, exclusive of any other desires or longings.
I want you to stop planning, stop wishing, and allow Me to give the most thrilling plan existing to you – one that you cannot imagine. I want you to have the best. Please allow Me to bring it to you – you must keep watching Me, expecting the greatest things – keep experiencing that satisfaction knowing that I AM – keep learning and listening to the things I tell you… You must wait.
Don’t be anxious. Don’t worry. Don’t look around at the things others have gotten or that I have given them. Don’t look at the things you think you want. You just keep looking off and away up to Me or you’ll miss what I want to show you.
And then, when you’re ready, I’ll surprise you with a love far more wonderful than any you would ever dream. You see, until you are ready and until the one I have for you is ready… I am working even this minute to have you both ready at the same time… Until you are both exclusively with Me and the life I prepared for you, you won’t be able to experience the love that exemplifies your relationship with Me, and is thus perfect love.
And dear one, I want you to have this most wonderful love. I want you to see in the flesh a picture of your relationship with Me, and to enjoy materially and concretely the everlasting union of beauty and perfection and love that I offer you with Myself.
Know I love you utterly. I am God Almighty. Believe and be satisfied.”
(Author Unknown)
If you’re single, and you want to know who to marry, run as hard and as fast toward Jesus as you can and if, out of the corner of your eye, you see somebody running in the same direction, take a second look. (Pastor Tommy Nelson)
Remember:
ON HIS PLAN FOR YOUR MATE
Blessings
The Lord bless you and keep you in your singleness as you prepare for marriage;
The Lord make His face shine upon you,
And be gracious to you;
The Lord lift up His countenance upon you,
And give you peace and a future marriage that pleases Him!
Karen Lindwall-Bourg
“Achieve Levels of Success Worth Celebrating”
*Founder, Karen Bourg Companies http://karenbourg.com
*Owner, President {Inter}National Association of Christian Women Entrepreneurs/International Christian Mompreneur Network http://nacwe.org
*Founder, RHEMA Publishing House http://rhemapublishinghouse.com
*Founder, RHEMA Lakeside Retreat Center https://www.facebook.com/rhemaretreat/
*Founder, RHEMA Counseling Associates http://rhemacounseling.com
About Karen Lindwall-Bourg
Karen Lindwall-Bourg is the President of the {Inter} National Association of Christian Women Entrepreneurs [est. May 2010] and the new President of the International Christian Mompreneur Network [est. July 2010], both at http://nacwe.org . She and the NACWE Operations and Leadership Teams work diligently to provide
· Community
· Networking
· Education
· Missions
opportunities to Christian Women Entrepreneurs, Mompreneurs and Nanapreneurs alike all over the world!
Our Core Values are
· Community – we value Connection, Collaboration and Contribution
· Networking – we value Nurture, New relationships and New and innovative offers
· Education – we value Encouragement, Excellence and Expressiveness, and
· Missions – we value Ministry and Making a difference
Karen is wife to Fred, Mommy to 6 kids and 5 in-loves, Nana to “going-on” 12 grandchildren, and treat provider deluxe for a herd of Great Pyrenees who protect their north TX ranch! She is an entrepreneur coach, author, publisher, retreat hostess and more! Learn more about Mastermind groups and “Celebration” coaching with Karen at http://karenbourg.com
by Dr. Karen Lindwall-Bourg | Oct 25, 2019 | Entrepreneur Endeavors, Firm Foundations
4 Business Cornerstones for Helping Professionals
Hosted by Karen Bourg Companies http://karenbourg.com
…therefore thus says the Lord God,
“Behold, I am the one who has laid as a foundation in Zion,
a stone, a tested stone,
a precious cornerstone, of a sure foundation:
‘Whoever believes will not be in haste.’
Isaiah 28:16
A cornerstone, in ancient building practices, was the first and principal stone placed at the corner of the structure. The cornerstone was usually one of the largest, the most solid, and the most carefully constructed of any in the building. Today, the cornerstone is most important since all other stones will be set in reference to this one stone, thus determining the position of the entire structure.
We had just moved our offices into a newly constructed building. I assumed it had four corners so it must have been built on four “cornerstones”. Granted, I build thriving businesses, and generate innovative services and programs, and craft creative products. I encourage and empower and equip. I don’t construct buildings! Even so, I’m still going to present to you 4 “cornerstones”!
THE Cornerstone is Jesus Christ.
Jesus described Himself as the Cornerstone that His church would be built upon; the foundation of a unified body of believers. The Apostle Paul referred to Him as the “head of the corner” and the “Chief Cornerstone of the Church.” It is the desire of the Founders and team at Karen Bourg Companies to make Christ our chief and crown – our cornerstone.
Is Jesus Christ the chief cornerstone in your business?
What does that mean in your organization?
How do others recognize this sure foundation?
The dedication stone is your mission and vision.
They are foundational to and define your past, present and future growth. In older times, the completion of a building involved a ceremony of the rite of laying the cornerstone that was symbolic of the produce and the people of the land and the means of their subsistence. Some contemporary builders include an inscription on the stone indicating the construction dates of the building and the names of architect, builder and other significant individuals. For our team of Associates, this celebration will include a ceremony of prayer and dedication and the placing of a custom designed stepping-stone in our offices.
How can you celebrate and re-dedicate your business and stay true to your mission and vision?
Another keystone is your customer or client.
God has called you to serve them and to represent Him as you work together – you are His ambassador and builder.
Who is your ideal client?
Does defining him/her lead you to change or enhance your services or products?
A final, but crucial foundation stone is… You!
After all, it is You whom God has called to minister to others in this unique and effective way! And He will lead you to the equipping and expertise needed to draw others to Him as you follow your purpose and calling as entrepreneur! I waited 7 years for God to show me what this looked like, then realized (in this stagnant state) that I had to move as far forward into His will as I could before He would show me more of the purposes and vision for Karen Bourg Companies.
As you seek His will and look at what He has already shown you, what is the next step to take toward bringing Him glory and honor in your organization?
Let’s take it together!
Join me and share your cornerstones.
God Bless You!
Karen Lindwall-Bourg
“Achieve Levels of Success Worth Celebrating”
*Founder, Karen Bourg Companies http://karenbourg.com
*Owner, President {Inter}National Association of Christian Women Entrepreneurs/International Christian Mompreneur Network http://nacwe.org
*Founder, RHEMA Publishing House http://rhemapublishinghouse.com
*Founder, RHEMA Lakeside Retreat Center https://www.facebook.com/rhemaretreat/
*Founder, RHEMA Counseling Associates http://rhemacounseling.com
About Karen Lindwall-Bourg
Karen Lindwall-Bourg is the President of the {Inter} National Association of Christian Women Entrepreneurs [est. May 2010] and the new President of the International Christian Mompreneur Network [est. July 2010], both at http://nacwe.org . She and the NACWE Operations and Leadership Teams work diligently to provide
· Community
· Networking
· Education
· Missions
opportunities to Christian Women Entrepreneurs, Mompreneurs and Nanapreneurs alike all over the world!
Our Core Values are
· Community – we value Connection, Collaboration and Contribution
· Networking – we value Nurture, New relationships and New and innovative offers
· Education – we value Encouragement, Excellence and Expressiveness, and
· Missions – we value Ministry and Making a difference
Karen is wife to Fred, Mommy to 6 kids and 5 in-loves, Nana to “going-on” 12 grandchildren, and treat provider deluxe for a herd of Great Pyrenees who protect their north TX ranch! She is an entrepreneur coach, author, publisher, retreat hostess and more! Learn more about Mastermind groups and “Celebration” coaching with Karen at http://karenbourg.com .
