by Dr. Karen Lindwall-Bourg | Jun 13, 2020 | Blog, Celebrate Life!
Anxiety Revisited – What is Anxiety?
At some point in your life, you have experienced anxiety, worry, or stress. You may call it nerves or butterflies. Not all feelings of anxiety are bad. Emotions are an alarm system God designed so that we may be aware and able to make holy choices. Let’s talk about anxiety; it causes and from where it comes.
Casting all your anxieties on him, because he cares for you. 1 Peter 5:7
Anxiety Revisited – What is anxiety?
“If you want to conquer the anxiety of life, live in the moment, live in the breath.” Amit Ray
Merriam-Webster defines anxiety in a few different ways, including a medical definition. Let’s review each of these definitions and put it in perspective with scripture.
Anxiety as anticipation is defined as “apprehensive uneasiness or nervousness usually over an impending or anticipated ill: a state of being anxious.”
“Therefore, do not be anxious about tomorrow, for tomorrow will be anxious for itself. Sufficient for the day is its own trouble. Matthew 6:34 ESV
We are specifically instructed not to worry about tomorrow.
The medical definitions according to Merriam-Webster is: “an abnormal and overwhelming sense of apprehension and fear often marked by physical signs (such as tension, sweating, and increased pulse rate), by doubt concerning the reality and nature of the threat, and by self-doubt about one’s capacity to cope with it.”
Fear not, for I am with you; be not dismayed, for I am your God; I will strengthen you, I will help you, I will uphold you with my righteous right hand. Isaiah 41:10
This definition of anxiety is particularly helpful because it names the physical symptoms along with the emotions in case you weren’t sure what you were feeling was anxiety. Again, this definition reflects the reality that our thoughts and feelings direct anxiety. It is helpful to know the general symptoms of internal stress to respond well.
The final part of the definition describes anxiety as a “mentally distressing concern or interest; an ardent desire sometimes mixed with doubt, fear, or uneasiness.”
But the Helper, the Holy Spirit, whom the Father will send in my name, He will teach you all things and bring to your remembrance all that I have said to you. John 14:26 ESV
All of us have experienced mental distress mixed with fear, self-doubt, and uneasiness even to the point of dread. It is great that God has sent us a Helper, a Comforter in the Holy Spirit, that we may receive the comfort we need from Him to do His will – even when we are uneasy.
Anxiety Revisited – Where does anxiety come from?
Anxiety is often synonymous with stress. There are diverse types of stress, all have an impact on your spirit, soul, and body, and should be handled accordingly.
Eustress is positive stress. It is the stress associated with things that make you feel excited and give you energy or motivation. Eustress is related to things like the first date with someone you like. Eustress could include the feelings you have about getting a raise, receiving gifts on Christmas morning, or taking a vacation. Eustress is often described as butterflies and is short term. It is the excitement and anticipation of something positive.
Distress is negative stress. It includes the feelings of dread that might come with meeting with your boss, having legal or financial problems, fighting with your spouse, or losing your job. Distress is often most associated with the feelings described in the medical definition of anxiety. Distress often impedes performance and clouds thinking. It can be a short term or long term state of mind.
When the Spirit of truth comes, He will guide you into all the truth, for He will not speak on His own authority, but whatever He hears He will speak, and He will declare to you the things that are to come. John 16:13 ESV
Being aware of the unexplainable stress you are feeling can help you deal with it in appropriate ways. Self-care and prayer are the most effective ways of handling anxiety. Prayer allows you to seek the answers you need to act on distressing situations. Self-care allows you to take care of your physical body and spiritual health as all stress and anxiety (positive and negative) influences all dimensions of your well-being.
Blessings,
Karen Lindwall-Bourg
“Achieve Levels of Success Worth Celebrating”
*Founder, Karen Bourg Companies http://karenbourg.com
*Owner, President {Inter}National Association of Christian Women Entrepreneurs/International Christian Mompreneur Network http://nacwe.org
*Founder, RHEMA Publishing House http://rhemapublishinghouse.com
*Founder, RHEMA Lakeside Retreat Center https://www.facebook.com/rhemaretreat/
*Founder, RHEMA Counseling Associates http://rhemacounseling.com
About Karen Lindwall-Bourg
Karen Lindwall-Bourg is the President of the {Inter} National Association of Christian Women Entrepreneurs [est. May 2010] and the new President of the International Christian Mompreneur Network [est. July 2010], both at http://nacwe.org . She and the NACWE Operations and Leadership Teams work diligently to provide
· Community
· Networking
· Education
· Missions
opportunities to Christian Women Entrepreneurs, Mompreneurs and Nanapreneurs alike all over the world!
Our Core Values are
· Community – we value Connection, Collaboration and Contribution
· Networking – we value Nurture, New relationships and New and innovative offers
· Education – we value Encouragement, Excellence and Expressiveness, and
· Missions – we value Ministry and Making a difference
Karen is wife to Fred, Mommy to 6 kids and 5 in-loves, Nana to “going-on” 12 grandchildren, and treat provider deluxe for a herd of Great Pyrenees who protect their north TX ranch! She is an entrepreneur coach, author, publisher, retreat hostess and more! Learn more about Mastermind groups and “Celebration” coaching with Karen at http://karenbourg.com
by Dr. Karen Lindwall-Bourg | Jun 4, 2020 | Celebrate Life!
It seems, in the midst of grief and mourning, one of the last things we think about is Joy.
Joy and grief are never far apart. In the same street the shutters of one house are closed, while the curtains of the next are brushed by shadow of the dance. A wedding-party returns from church, and a funeral winds to its door. The smiles and the sadness of life are the tragi-comedy of Shakespeare. Gladness and sighs brighten and dim the mirror he beholds.
Robert Aris Willmott
The Struggle is Guaranteed! UGH!
Let’s be honest, before we even coined the term COVID-19, because of the world we live in, we were all experiencing some level of grief and mourning. My family was adjusting to the ups and downs of my husband’s recent forced retirement, the death of a beloved uncle, concern for a daughter-in-love due to have a baby, and more.
What were you struggling through? The struggle is a guarantee. John 16:33 I have said these things to you, that in Me you may have peace. In the world you will have tribulation…
Look at the last half of John 16:
Your Sorrow Will Turn into Joy
16 “A little while, and you will see me no longer; and again a little while, and you will see me.” 17 So some of his disciples said to one another, “What is this that he says to us, ‘A little while, and you will not see me, and again a little while, and you will see me’; and, ‘because I am going to the Father’?” 18 So they were saying, “What does he mean by ‘a little while’? We do not know what he is talking about.” 19 Jesus knew that they wanted to ask him, so he said to them, “Is this what you are asking yourselves, what I meant by saying, ‘A little while and you will not see me, and again a little while and you will see me’? 20 Truly, truly, I say to you, you will weep and lament, but the world will rejoice. You will be sorrowful, but your sorrow will turn into joy. 21 When a woman is giving birth, she has sorrow because her hour has come, but when she has delivered the baby, she no longer remembers the anguish, for joy that a human being has been born into the world. 22 So also you have sorrow now, but I will see you again, and your hearts will rejoice, and no one will take your joy from you. 23 In that day you will ask nothing of me. Truly, truly, I say to you, whatever you ask of the Father in my name, he will give it to you. 24 Until now you have asked nothing in my name. Ask, and you will receive, that your joy may be full.
I Have Overcome the World
25 “I have said these things to you in figures of speech. The hour is coming when I will no longer speak to you in figures of speech but will tell you plainly about the Father. 26 In that day you will ask in my name, and I do not say to you that I will ask the Father on your behalf; 27 for the Father himself loves you, because you have loved me and have believed that I came from God.[a] 28 I came from the Father and have come into the world, and now I am leaving the world and going to the Father.”
29 His disciples said, “Ah, now you are speaking plainly and not using figurative speech! 30 Now we know that you know all things and do not need anyone to question you; this is why we believe that you came from God.” 31 Jesus answered them, “Do you now believe? 32 Behold, the hour is coming, indeed it has come, when you will be scattered, each to his own home, and will leave me alone. Yet I am not alone, for the Father is with me. 33 I have said these things to you, that in me you may have peace. In the world you will have tribulation. But take heart; I have overcome the world.”
Are the JOYS Guaranteed? I certainly Hope So!
Let’s be honest, before we even coined the term Covid-19, because of the world we live in, some of us were experiencing profound joys. My family was actually enjoying the ups and downs of my husband’s recent forced retirement; and while we miss my uncle, it has been such a blessing to reconnect and visit with cousins; our son and daughter-in-love gave birth to a beautiful and healthy baby girl; and more.
What were your greatest joys? The joys don’t seem to be guaranteed.
Or are they?
Earth has no sorrow that Heaven cannot heal.
Thomas Moore
I wanted to explore all sorts of passages in God’s Word to comfort you and assure you that JOY abounds even during our times of distress, but I never made it out of John Chapter 16! Go figure! It’s packed with HOPE and JOY! May we be able to contain it!
The deeper that sorrow carves into your being, the more joy you can contain.
Khalil Gibran
JOY is Guaranteed!
God promises JOY – we will see Him!
John 16:16, 22 “…again a little while, and you will see Me.”
God promises JOY – He knows what we want!
John 16:19 “Jesus knew that they wanted to ask him, so He said to them,…”
God promises JOY – from our sorrows!
John 16:20 ”…the world will rejoice… and your sorrow will turn into joy.”
God promises JOY – from remembering anguish!
John 16:21 “…she no longer remembers the anguish,…”
God promises JOY – He Protects and Preserves our JOY!
John 16:22 “…no one will take your joy from you.”
God promises JOY – If We Ask for JOY, He Will Give it to Us!
John 16:23, 24 “…whatever you ask of the Father in My name, He will give it to you.”
God promises JOY – He has Overcome the World! John 16:25-33
John 16:32-33 “…I am not alone, for the Father is with Me. 33 I have said these things to you, that in Me you may have peace. In the world you will have tribulation. But take heart; I have overcome the world.””
How about you?
I don’t know about you, but I lose sight of His Promises during times of struggle like these. I’m going to post this one on the wall right beside my desk, my nightstand beside my bed, my makeup tray – maybe I just need to have it tattooed to my right arm or above my heart!
Thank YOU, Lord for Your Promise of JOY!
I LOVE YOU!
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Blessings,
Karen Lindwall-Bourg
“Achieve Levels of Success Worth Celebrating”
*Founder, Karen Bourg Companies http://karenbourg.com
*Owner, President {Inter}National Association of Christian Women Entrepreneurs/International Christian Mompreneur Network http://nacwe.org
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About Karen Lindwall-Bourg
Karen Lindwall-Bourg is the President of the {Inter} National Association of Christian Women Entrepreneurs [est. May 2010] and the new President of the International Christian Mompreneur Network [est. July 2010], both at http://nacwe.org . She and the NACWE Operations and Leadership Teams work diligently to provide
· Community
· Networking
· Education
· Missions
opportunities to Christian Women Entrepreneurs, Mompreneurs and Nanapreneurs alike all over the world!
Our Core Values are
· Community – we value Connection, Collaboration and Contribution
· Networking – we value Nurture, New relationships and New and innovative offers
· Education – we value Encouragement, Excellence and Expressiveness, and
· Missions – we value Ministry and Making a difference
Karen is wife to Fred, Mommy to 6 kids and 5 in-loves, Nana to “going-on” 11 grandchildren, and treat provider deluxe for a herd of Great Pyrenees who protect their north TX ranch! She is an entrepreneur coach, author, publisher, retreat hostess and more! Learn more about Mastermind groups and “Celebration” coaching with Karen at http://karenbourg.com.
by Dr. Karen Lindwall-Bourg | May 28, 2020 | Entrepreneur Endeavors
You are persistent, especially when you really want something! Am I right?
What comes to mind when I ask what you last sought after and pursued with persistence until you succeeded?
I once had a writing coach say if we hadn’t written what we planned, then we probably didn’t really want to or were not called to write it in the first place! I was surprised at my strong reaction to her words! I diligently considered if what I had planned to write was assigned to me from the Lord or not. If not, it needed to be set aside so I could focus on His true calling on my life as a writer. If yes, I needed to buckle down and be persistent until the writing was complete!
We’re awaiting (somewhat patiently) the birth of our 11th grandchild; our 8th grandorable daughter! I just wrote a blog about the obedience of the Hebrew Midwives that led to great influence upon the Isrealite nation, the Egyptian nation, and subsequently upon our world.
Read here: A WOMAN OF INFLUENCE!
You are a woman of Influence.
Then I thought of Hannah and all those who are mothers and grandmothers, and/or may not have born children of their own, but are surrogate mothers of sorts! What would we do without them? They are faith-FULL! They are patient and persistent in their care.
A Woman of Persistence – Does NOT Give Up!
Be persistent in your faith and petitions to God. In most cases, He has given you the desires of His/your heart and being filled with faith, He expects you to obediently pursue those desires and to bring Him glory and honor every step of the way.
Consider Hannah in 1 Samuel who was so persistent in her faith-filled prayer for a son that God granted her desire and then some! (1 Samuel 2:21 – she had other children) She was persistent and faithful.
In her day, a barren woman was scorned, ridiculed, even mocked. In her distress, instead of attacking her mocker, she cried out to God from her great sorrow and loss, praying earnestly, even begging for a son. Her prayer was sacrificial, sincere, and specific. Her prayer changed the course of her life, her son Samuel’s life, the Priest Eli’s life, and the life of the entire nation!
1 Samuel 1 English Standard Version (ESV)The Birth of Samuel
1 There was a certain man of Ramathaim-zophim of the hill country of Ephraim whose name was Elkanah the son of Jeroham, son of Elihu, son of Tohu, son of Zuph, an Ephrathite. 2 He had two wives. The name of the one was Hannah, and the name of the other, Peninnah. And Peninnah had children, but Hannah had no children.
3 Now this man used to go up year by year from his city to worship and to sacrifice to the Lord of hosts at Shiloh, where the two sons of Eli, Hophni and Phinehas, were priests of the Lord. 4 On the day when Elkanah sacrificed, he would give portions to Peninnah his wife and to all her sons and daughters. 5 But to Hannah he gave a double portion, because he loved her, though the Lord had closed her womb.[a] 6 And her rival used to provoke her grievously to irritate her, because the Lord had closed her womb. 7 So it went on year by year. As often as she went up to the house of the Lord, she used to provoke her. Therefore Hannah wept and would not eat. 8 And Elkanah, her husband, said to her, “Hannah, why do you weep? And why do you not eat? And why is your heart sad? Am I not more to you than ten sons?”
9 After they had eaten and drunk in Shiloh, Hannah rose. Now Eli the priest was sitting on the seat beside the doorpost of the temple of the Lord. 10 She was deeply distressed and prayed to the Lord and wept bitterly. 11 And she vowed a vow and said, “O Lord of hosts, if you will indeed look on the affliction of your servant and remember me and not forget your servant, but will give to your servant a son, then I will give him to the Lord all the days of his life, and no razor shall touch his head.”
12 As she continued praying before the Lord, Eli observed her mouth. 13 Hannah was speaking in her heart; only her lips moved, and her voice was not heard. Therefore Eli took her to be a drunken woman. 14 And Eli said to her, “How long will you go on being drunk? Put your wine away from you.” 15 But Hannah answered, “No, my lord, I am a woman troubled in spirit. I have drunk neither wine nor strong drink, but I have been pouring out my soul before the Lord. 16 Do not regard your servant as a worthless woman, for all along I have been speaking out of my great anxiety and vexation.” 17 Then Eli answered, “Go in peace, and the God of Israel grant your petition that you have made to him.” 18 And she said, “Let your servant find favor in your eyes.” Then the woman went her way and ate, and her face was no longer sad.
19 They rose early in the morning and worshiped before the Lord; then they went back to their house at Ramah. And Elkanah knew Hannah his wife, and the Lord remembered her. 20 And in due time Hannah conceived and bore a son, and she called his name Samuel, for she said, “I have asked for him from the Lord.”[b]
Samuel Given to the Lord
21 The man Elkanah and all his house went up to offer to the Lord the yearly sacrifice and to pay his vow. 22 But Hannah did not go up, for she said to her husband, “As soon as the child is weaned, I will bring him, so that he may appear in the presence of the Lord and dwell there forever.” 23 Elkanah her husband said to her, “Do what seems best to you; wait until you have weaned him; only, may the Lord establish his word.” So the woman remained and nursed her son until she weaned him. 24 And when she had weaned him, she took him up with her, along with a three-year-old bull,[c] an ephah[d] of flour, and a skin of wine, and she brought him to the house of the Lord at Shiloh. And the child was young. 25 Then they slaughtered the bull, and they brought the child to Eli. 26 And she said, “Oh, my lord! As you live, my lord, I am the woman who was standing here in your presence, praying to the Lord. 27 For this child I prayed, and the Lord has granted me my petition that I made to him. 28 Therefore I have lent him to the Lord. As long as he lives, he is lent to the Lord.”
And he worshiped the Lord there.
English Standard Version (ESV) Bold = mine
The Holy Bible, English Standard Version. ESV® Text Edition: 2016. Copyright © 2001 by Crossway Bibles, a publishing ministry of Good News Publishers.
A Woman of Persistence Can Impact the World!
Your life and ministry/business can influence a nation!
Your persistence in your life and entrepreneur endeavors can impact the world!
Honestly, I can’t think that broadly most of the time.
I’m content to try to wrap my heart around and try to influence and persistently work to impact just 1 person at a time!
But then I remember that Hannah’s persistent prayer changed the course of her life, the lives of her family, and the life of her world and yours and mine! God used her son Samuel as a powerful prophet during the lifetime of King David and we read about him today. God used King David to lead the nation and to complete the lineage of Christ and today we are Saved!
God delights in the faith and persistence of His people!
Be a Woman of Persistence!
Homework/Handout:
Re-Write Hannah’s Prayer as your own!
1 Samuel 2 English Standard Version (ESV)Hannah’s Prayer
2 1 And Hannah prayed and said,
“My heart exults in the Lord;
my horn is exalted in the Lord.
My mouth derides my enemies,
because I rejoice in your salvation.
2
“There is none holy like the Lord:
for there is none besides you;
there is no rock like our God.
3
Talk no more so very proudly,
let not arrogance come from your mouth;
for the Lord is a God of knowledge,
and by him actions are weighed.
4
The bows of the mighty are broken,
but the feeble bind on strength.
5
Those who were full have hired themselves out for bread,
but those who were hungry have ceased to hunger.
The barren has borne seven,
but she who has many children is forlorn.
6
The Lord kills and brings to life;
he brings down to Sheol and raises up.
7
The Lord makes poor and makes rich;
he brings low and he exalts.
8
He raises up the poor from the dust;
he lifts the needy from the ash heap
to make them sit with princes
and inherit a seat of honor.
For the pillars of the earth are the Lord’s,
and on them he has set the world.
9
“He will guard the feet of his faithful ones,
but the wicked shall be cut off in darkness,
for not by might shall a man prevail.
10
The adversaries of the Lord shall be broken to pieces;
against them he will thunder in heaven.
The Lord will judge the ends of the earth;
he will give strength to his king
and exalt the horn of his anointed.”
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Coaching & Writing -When you need small group Coaching/Masterminds and/or Individual Coaching with opportunities for trips, retreats, VIP Days and more to achieve extraordinary levels of success worth celebrating, join Me / Dr. Karen Website http://karenbourg.com/work-with-me I’ve been coaching since about 2007 when I opened a Private Practice Marriage and Family Therapy/Biblical Counseling Practice and realized to grow took a whole lot more than “when you build it, they will come”! It took knowing how to run a business/ministry God’s Way!
Conference -Also, we hope you’ll consider joining us for our ANNUAL Conference “Working God’s Way” north of Dallas September 18-19, 2020. Our keynote Speaker will be Shae Bynes, Co-Founder of Kingdom Driven Entrepreneur and the Author of Grace Over Grind. https://nacwe.org/savethedate2020conference/
Blessings,
Karen Lindwall-Bourg
“Achieve Levels of Success Worth Celebrating”
*Founder, Karen Bourg Companies http://karenbourg.com
*Owner, President {Inter}National Association of Christian Women Entrepreneurs/International Christian Mompreneur Network http://nacwe.org
*Founder, RHEMA Publishing House http://rhemapublishinghouse.com
*Founder, RHEMA Lakeside Retreat Center https://www.facebook.com/rhemaretreat/
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About Karen Lindwall-Bourg
Karen Lindwall-Bourg is the President of the {Inter} National Association of Christian Women Entrepreneurs [est. May 2010] and the new President of the International Christian Mompreneur Network [est. July 2010], both at http://nacwe.org . She and the NACWE Operations and Leadership Teams work diligently to provide
· Community
· Networking
· Education
· Missions
opportunities to Christian Women Entrepreneurs, Mompreneurs and Nanapreneurs alike all over the world!
Our Core Values are
· Community – we value Connection, Collaboration and Contribution
· Networking – we value Nurture, New relationships and New and innovative offers
· Education – we value Encouragement, Excellence and Expressiveness, and
· Missions – we value Ministry and Making a difference
Karen is wife to Fred, Mommy to 6 kids and 5 in-loves, Nana to “going-on” 11 grandchildren, and treat provider deluxe for a herd of Great Pyrenees who protect their north TX ranch! She is an entrepreneur coach, author, publisher, retreat hostess and more! Learn more about Mastermind groups and “Celebration” coaching with Karen at http://karenbourg.com.
by Dr. Karen Lindwall-Bourg | May 27, 2020 | Blog, Celebrate Life!
from GriefBeliefs guide to Reconciling Grief and Mourning
There is a beautiful tradition in the Jewish faith of sitting shiva when someone dies. Simply explained, it is the ritual of doing nothing but grieving for a period of seven days. There are many practices which go along with this period. Some tear their clothing, many do not bathe or shower for the seven days, and most cover all the reflective surfaces in their home.
If you have lost someone you love deeply, you know how crucial this grieving ritual can be. I especially appreciated not being able to see in reflective surfaces how bad I looked after crying my eyes out!
However, in our Christian and western culture, we are often not taught how to or allowed to grieve. Unfortunately, this can create additional difficulties in our life during an already critical time of crises.
It’s okay to be sad.
Grief can be felt after any loss – the death or other loss of a loved one, the loss of a pet, a job or even a dream or hope. It is ok the feel sad. It’s okay to say you are sad and it is even beneficial to cry.
In order to heal through grief it’s important to acknowledge that you are mourning. Your grief and loss are real and unique. It’s normal to feel the way you’re feeling.
It’s okay to ask for what you need.
Often, when it comes to grief people really don’t know how to act toward us or what to say. At times an effort to help someone can potentially be very hurtful. The best way to help your loved ones help you when you are experiencing grief is to tell them what you need.
This added responsibility or burden may seem a bit unfair as you might expect people to automatically know what you need. But, it will be much easier on you and your relationships if you can make your wants known. Let your support system know how they can support you!
There may be times when you just don’t know what you need. If that is the case, just say so. There have been times in grief when I have just needed someone to do nothing but sit in the same room with me. Everyone grieves (it is a universal emotion), but grief is extremely individual (unique). No two people will mourn the same, so be honest about how you feel and how others can help.
Time for Lament
A Time for Everything
For everything there is a season, and a time for every matter under heaven:
2 a time to be born, and a time to die;
a time to plant, and a time to pluck up what is planted;
3 a time to kill, and a time to heal;
a time to break down, and a time to build up;
4 a time to weep, and a time to laugh;
a time to mourn, and a time to dance;
5 a time to cast away stones, and a time to gather stones together;
a time to embrace, and a time to refrain from embracing;
6 a time to seek, and a time to lose;
a time to keep, and a time to cast away;
7 a time to tear, and a time to sew;
a time to keep silence, and a time to speak;
8 a time to love, and a time to hate;
a time for war, and a time for peace.
(Ecclesiastes 3:1-8, ESV)
Whether you follow a stage theory of grieving (denial, anger, bargaining, depression, acceptance) or various task theories of mourning (acknowledge, embrace, remember, develop, relate, receive, reconcile), your journey is a personal experience. One thing is certain, while healing from grief and loss you will experience many other emotions – from anger, frustration, disappointment, and hopelessness, to feelings of wanting to give up. It is normal and acceptable to feel all those emotions.
Remember:
- The LORD is BIG enough to handle whatever you feel.
- He endured the ultimate grief of the death of His SON on the cross.
- He loves you and will comfort you.
Lament
The definition of lament is – a passionate expression of grief or sorrow, an expression or deep grief or expression of disappointment or regret over something considered unfair, unsatisfactory or unreasonable. God wants you to communicate your lament to Him.
When you consider grief can be about numerous things, the definition of lament fits nicely into the way we feel about all things. We can take our example from King David who was an adulterer, plotted a murder, and then made the decision to run for the hills rather than deal with the consequences. Yet, when we read the psalms he wrote he consistently cried out to God. He complained, he blamed, he cowered, and he whined, he begged, he plead, he repented and he praised God. In his lament he went through the gambit of human emotion. God never forsook him. David lamented and issued praises. He actually worshiped through his lament!
Check out Psalm 89 as a perfect example of lamentation. It starts with the writer remembering the promises God has made. The first part of the psalm is about God’s goodness and faithfulness. (verse 1 – I will sing of the steadfast love of the Lord, forever; with my mouth I will make known your faithfulness to all generations.) Then the tone changes and the writer clearly feels forgotten by the Lord (verse 46 – How long, O Lord? Will you hide yourself forever?) In the final verse, he issues praise again (Blessed be the Lord forever!) This is a courageous picture of how God wants us to bring our sorrow, grief, regret, disappointment, and loss to Him. God will be faithful to answer and to comfort!
The major point and key to lament, as a part of healing through grief and mourning, is communicating all these feelings to God. This is where you will find true comfort and lasting relief.
WHAT HAVE YOU LEARNED ABOUT HEALING FROM GRIEF AND LOSS ON YOUR JOURNEY?
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Blessings,
Karen Lindwall-Bourg
“Achieve Levels of Success Worth Celebrating”
*Founder, Karen Bourg Companies http://karenbourg.com
*Owner, President {Inter}National Association of Christian Women Entrepreneurs/International Christian Mompreneur Network http://nacwe.org
*Founder, RHEMA Publishing House http://rhemapublishinghouse.com
*Founder, RHEMA Lakeside Retreat Center https://www.facebook.com/rhemaretreat/
*Founder, RHEMA Counseling Associates http://rhemacounseling.com
About Karen Lindwall-Bourg
Karen Lindwall-Bourg is the President of the {Inter} National Association of Christian Women Entrepreneurs [est. May 2010] and the new President of the International Christian Mompreneur Network [est. July 2010], both at http://nacwe.org . She and the NACWE Operations and Leadership Teams work diligently to provide
· Community
· Networking
· Education
· Missions
opportunities to Christian Women Entrepreneurs, Mompreneurs and Nanapreneurs alike all over the world!
Our Core Values are
· Community – we value Connection, Collaboration and Contribution
· Networking – we value Nurture, New relationships and New and innovative offers
· Education – we value Encouragement, Excellence and Expressiveness, and
· Missions – we value Ministry and Making a difference
Karen is wife to Fred, Mommy to 6 kids and 5 in-loves, Nana to “going-on” 12 grandchildren, and treat provider deluxe for a herd of Great Pyrenees who protect their north TX ranch! She is an entrepreneur coach, author, publisher, retreat hostess and more! Learn more about Mastermind groups and “Celebration” coaching with Karen at http://karenbourg.com.
by Dr. Karen Lindwall-Bourg | May 22, 2020 | Entrepreneur Endeavors
You are a woman of influence!
As a leader, you are never not influencing someone.
You are never not leading someone.
Pardon the double negatives, but it’s true.
Are you influencing and leading well or poorly?
As a Woman of Influence – You Can Change the Course of History!
You are often faced with a chance to change the course of history as you lead and influence others. Believe it or not!
“… More often than not, it’s men and women with no power and little social standing who most significantly reshape this world.”
-John Maxwell, NKJV, Maxwell Leadership Bible, e-book. Thomas Nelson. Kindle edition.
Consider the story of Shiphrah and Puah, Hebrew midwives who feared God and refused to obey the wicked command of the king of Egypt who wanted them to murder all Hebrew male newborns as the nation grew.
They were, in the grand scheme of society, powerless and despised and disadvantaged. They were also very brave and chose to do the right thing.
Exodus 1:15-20
15 Then the king of Egypt said to the Hebrew midwives, one of whom was named Shiphrah and the other Puah, 16 “When you serve as midwife to the Hebrew women and see them on the birthstool, if it is a son, you shall kill him, but if it is a daughter, she shall live.” 17 But the midwives feared God and did not do as the king of Egypt commanded them, but let the male children live. 18 So the king of Egypt called the midwives and said to them, “Why have you done this, and let the male children live?” 19 The midwives said to Pharaoh, “Because the Hebrew women are not like the Egyptian women, for they are vigorous and give birth before the midwife comes to them.” 20 So God dealt well with the midwives. And the people multiplied and grew very strong. 21 And because the midwives feared God, he gave them families. 22 Then Pharaoh commanded all his people, “Every son that is born to the Hebrews you shall cast into the Nile, but you shall let every daughter live.”
We have four sons and two daughters. Our 11th grandchild will be born soon! One of our daughters is a midwife and family nurse practitioner. She has a T-shirt that says
Before Moses delivered Israel;
Shiphrah and Puah delivered Moses!
Other T-shirts related to midwives online say
“Midwifery, as old as the human race.”
“The midwives refused to obey.”
“Shiphrah and Puah: the courage to say “and.” The ways of passion and courage.”
Shiphrah and Puah continued to deliver healthy male Hebrews, they risked their lives to protect the children that God had placed in their care; they disobeyed the ruler of Egypt to obey the God they feared. God showed them kindness by blessing them with families of their own who probably took part in the great exodus from Egypt.
They helped to spare the life of Moses – Israel’s God-ordained deliverer.
They protected the line of Abraham through which Jesus Christ would come, fulfilling God‘s plan for the Hebrews and for all mankind. For you and me!
I admire anyone who is willing to lead well and positively influence another, especially a helpless and impressionable child. But I rarely think that my love of and care for my children and grandorables will change the course of history! And yet, someone(s) changed the course of history for me! And for you! And not all of those influencers were leaders of nations, I bet!
A Woman of Influence – An Entrepreneur Called By God
To me that’s what entrepreneurship is all about – leading and influencing in a way that brings God glory and honor and draws others to Jesus Christ and encourages and inspires their growth in business and ministry!
Dear Christian entrepreneur,
I’m praying that you lead others well.
I am praying that you influence others in a way that brings glory and honor to God.
You do it every day!
Have you ever heard that song: Thank You For Giving to the Lord?
Thank You For Giving To The Lord
https://bit.ly/2TcQbRI
Ray Boltz
Thank You
I dreamed I went to heaven
And you were there with me
We walked upon the streets of gold
Beside the crystal sea
We heard the angels singing
Then someone called your name
You turned and saw this young man
And he was smiling as he came
And he said friend you may not know me now
And then he said but wait
You used to teach my Sunday School
When I was only eight
And every week you would say a prayer
Before the class would start
And one day when you said that prayer
I asked Jesus in my heart
Thank you for giving to the Lord
I am a life that was changed
Thank you for giving to the Lord
I am so glad you gave
Then another man stood before you
And said remember the time
A missionary came to your church
And his pictures made you cry
You didn’t have much money
But you gave it anyway
Jesus took the gift you gave
And that’s why I’m here today
Thank you for giving to the Lord
I am a life that was changed
Thank you for giving to the Lord
I am so glad you gave
One by one they came
Far as the eyes could see
Each life somehow touched
By your generosity
Little things that you had done
Sacrifices made
Unnoticed on the earth
In heaven now proclaimed
And I know that up in heaven
You’re not supposed to cry
But I am almost sure
There were tears in your eyes
As Jesus took your hand
And you stood before the Lord
He said, my child look around you
For great is your reward
Thank you for giving to the Lord
I am a life that was changed
Thank you for giving to the Lord
I am so glad you gave
I am so glad you gave
Source: Musixmatch
Songwriters: A Marvel / T Moran / A Tripoli
Thank You For Giving To The Lord lyrics © Salski Music, Moran Music, Sony/atv Tunes Llc Obo World Of Andy Music, Inc., Universal Music-z Tunes Obo Andy Panda Music
You never know what gentle touch or act of kindness or matter of influence and leadership might change a person’s life, and thus change the course of history!
Take care of yourself.
You are NO heavenly good if you aren’t functioning well on earth!
Resolve each day to serve the Lord as you are His willing vessel to influence and lead others well!
Look forward to the day when He will say, ‘Well done, good and faithful servant. You have been faithful over a little; I will set you over much. Enter into the joy of your master.’ Matthew 25
Keep influencing!
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Blessings,
Karen Lindwall-Bourg
“Achieve Levels of Success Worth Celebrating”
*Founder, Karen Bourg Companies http://karenbourg.com
*Owner, President {Inter}National Association of Christian Women Entrepreneurs/International Christian Mompreneur Network http://nacwe.org
*Founder, RHEMA Publishing House http://rhemapublishinghouse.com
*Founder, RHEMA Lakeside Retreat Center https://www.facebook.com/rhemaretreat/
*Founder, RHEMA Counseling Associates http://rhemacounseling.com
About Karen Lindwall-Bourg
Karen Lindwall-Bourg is the President of the {Inter} National Association of Christian Women Entrepreneurs [est. May 2010] and the new President of the International Christian Mompreneur Network [est. July 2010], both at http://nacwe.org . She and the NACWE Operations and Leadership Teams work diligently to provide
· Community
· Networking
· Education
· Missions
opportunities to Christian Women Entrepreneurs, Mompreneurs and Nanapreneurs alike all over the world!
Our Core Values are
· Community – we value Connection, Collaboration and Contribution
· Networking – we value Nurture, New relationships and New and innovative offers
· Education – we value Encouragement, Excellence and Expressiveness, and
· Missions – we value Ministry and Making a difference
Karen is wife to Fred, Mommy to 6 kids and 5 in-loves, Nana to “going-on” 11 grandchildren, and treat provider deluxe for a herd of Great Pyrenees who protect their north TX ranch! She is an entrepreneur coach, author, publisher, retreat hostess and more! Learn more about Mastermind groups and “Celebration” coaching with Karen at http://karenbourg.com.
