Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewal of your mind …

—Romans 12:2a (ESV, emphasis added)

Transform : make a thorough or dramatic change in the form, appearance, or character of.

Renewal : the replacing or repair of something that is worn out, run-down, or broken.

We all need to make changes from time to time, and often those changes need to be thorough and dramatic, going from unhealthy to healthy, from broken to renewed.

To wellness.

Parts—or thoughts—may need to be replaced, transformed, and revived. So how do we make those life changes? How do we get to wellness?

Wellness: The Awareness of the Whole Individual focuses on the acronym BELIEFS. Each chapter highlights one area of BELIEFS and ends with an assessment for help in determining areas in life that may need attention. True wellness should be cultivated in key areas of our lives:

• Body
• Emotions
• Livelihood
• Intellect
• Environment
• Family & Friends
• Spiritual

The necessity of health and wellness is before us constantly—on social media, on billboards, in magazines we see in the grocery check-out line, on television. Our culture is obsessed with the latest health food, living a stress free life, the easiest and guaranteed-to-work diet plan. And yet, wellness is about so much more than only the physical. Each of these areas is important in providing peace and rest for our souls.

For as he thinks within himself, so he is. —Proverbs 23:7 (NASB)

A friend of mine, who recently became a Life Coach, instructs her clients that they control and direct their emotions by controlling and directing their thinking. Likewise, in each of these areas of BELIEFS, we have the ability to make choices toward wellness and health.

“A healthy outside starts from the inside.” —Robert Urich

Because we live in a fallen world, the storms of life will come our way. This encouraging and practical book helps to navigate through those storms, pointing us toward a life of wholeness and wellness while we’re on this earth.

“The part can never be well unless the whole is well.” —Plato

When I was younger, I loved riding roller coasters at the State Fair; I’d go every year with just enough money to buy lunch and ride the roller coaster a couple of times. But it wasn’t that way the very first time I rode one—my friends had to coax me on, and once it was over, they had to help me off!

Life events are often a lot like that first roller coaster ride, especially when a loved one dies. Like that first coaster ride, with its ups, downs, twists, turns, smooth and rough spots—and not knowing what comes next—emotions and grief are unpredictable, and the feelings that come and go and change, can be confusing and scary.

Recently, I heard a news story about a roller coaster that stopped in mid-air. The riders hung upside down for three hours before the mechanics could repair the machinery and get them down. Can you imagine? Thankfully, no one was injured—but I bet it got them to thinking twice about riding that coaster again for a long while!

Unfortunately, when someone we love dies, we don’t have the choice to refuse the roller coaster ride of emotions. And “the death of someone we love is definitely not … a journey we would choose to go on.”

How to Ride the Roller Coaster of Grief

In Someone I Love Has Died: Get Me OFF This Emotional Roller Coaster Called Grief, author Karen Lindwall-Bourg walks us through her and her children’s own experiences after losing someone they loved. She helps the reader understand how different grief is for each person going through it; that all of the ups, downs and turn-arounds are completely normal; and that the ride WILL stop at some point. This booklet is for anyone struggling to understand that roller coaster called Grief. Children, parents, care-givers—anyone grieving the death of a loved one—will walk off that ride with renewed strength to carry on.

Have there been times in your life, maybe even now, when you are doing good things—really good things, LOTS of good things—but you realize that something isn’t quite right? If you’re like me, the answer is a resounding “YES!” If we’re honest, most of us walk…or run really fast…that pathway more often than not. We get busy doing activities or jobs that are productive and helpful and serving others and life-giving. Why would we NOT want to do those things??

When our family moved from our beloved east Texas to Colorado several years ago, I felt that if I didn’t get involved and be of service and make friends pretty quickly, I might sink. We had left the place where we raised our children and ourselves; where we helped start a church, served in the community, and were involved in myriad home school activities; we left friends we did life with and with whom we developed roots. Because I had been doing all of these good things, before we got unpacked, I started putting my name on lists, volunteering for needs at church, and looking for people who were in the same life-vein as I was.

All of those things were good!

But about a year after we got settled in CO, something—or Someone—spoke to me. “Slow down. Stop striving. Rest.” Then, “You will be just fine—even better. Get to know yourself and love those who are most important in your life right now. All of those other activities and needs and people aren’t going anywhere—but the most important ones are right in front of you. THIS is where you need to be.”

“STOP! Get to know yourself and love those who are most important in your life right now.” What?! Wasn’t I doing that? Hadn’t I done that all along? I was already doing that by staying busy with all the good things and people around us, while also teaching my children about service and what was important. What does that mean, “Get to know yourself”??

Somewhere along the way of life, where so many good things were before me, I thought I had to do them all and work to make sure things got done. I had to serve because there were so many needs, and surely, no one else would do the job; or because others expected me to do it; or maybe because it made me feel important. Really? Rather than pray over all of those good tasks (there’s a concept!) before deciding what was best for all concerned—especially my family andme—I took off running. I loved what I was doing: working, teaching, leading, heading up hospitality committees, attending to others’ needs.

Although I thought my busyness and service were necessary and good, they weren’t best. The work I was doing wasn’t always profitable—I was striving, and the good things I was doing became a kind of tyranny. The goodness of life, while always a gift, had started to become a very heavy weight; and before I realized it, I was on a track where knowing God, knowing myself, and knowing those I love most, had taken a back seat.

Soon after I heard that voice telling me to slow down and “get to know myself” and to truly connect with and love those around me, I started saying “No.” I said No when I was asked to manage a website for something at church; No when a need was posted for a co-op leader; Nowhen asked to volunteer weekly at a food bank. All of these needs were important, necessary, and good—and it wasn’t easy using the N word (at first). But eventually, I gained a freedom that was even more important, necessary, meaningful—and so much better.

Gradually, I started saying Yes to quiet mornings at home, to writing more, to deep and important conversations with my adult children; Yes to serving those in my home. I had to learn No so I could get back to Yes.

In the process, I slowly began to realize things about myself and understand more of what God wanted me to know: that He will use me right where I am; I don’t need to chase after all of those good things in life I am not responsible for; He directs my path toward goodness as long as I seek Him first.

He who dwells in the shelter of the Most High
    will abide in the shadow of the Almighty. Psalm 91:1

Return to your rest, my soul, for the Lord has been good to you. Psalm 116:7

Once you find the Rest your soul needs, you’ll realize that Life is still there, all of those good things are still waiting. Eventually, you will also be able to discern what is profitable. When you’re able to step back and see not only what the world around you needs, but what YOU need, you’ll walk toward to a more healthy and whole path and will be able to say Yes once again.

“In returning and rest you shall be saved; in quietness and in trust shall be your strength.”

—Isaiah 30:15

When my children were school age and were in the throes of writing and reading, we drove a couple of hours away so they could take part in a writing workshop, given by authors who had written children’s and youth literature—and who had been fairly successful. During one of the sessions about publishing (these were the days before self-publishing), the teacher commented that sometimes it takes awhile to get books published, but to never give up hope. He then mentioned a book we all knew very well; for ten years the author sent it to publisher after publisher, until one publishing house finally decided to take a chance.

If he had not persevered, we might have never had Frank Peretti’s This Present Darkness. Mr. Peretti may not have known at the time that his book would be a best-selling novel, but he did believe in the words he’d written—enough to have the courage to keep trying.

I have a friend who once wrote a curriculum for a class she was teaching. She asked several friends to read it so she could get feedback, because she was considering putting it into book format, hoping to sell it to a wider audience. The content wasn’t something I would have ever considered reading for pleasure or even education.

But one thing I had to remember: Other people would want to read it.

So I worked through the words on the paper; and when I finished reading it, I knew that once she reformatted it and reworked some of the content, the book just might be successful.

Little did I know just how successful.

That friend is now a well-known author; and that curriculum-turned-hardback-turned-paperback eventually became a series of books that sold into the millions. Because she believed in her work, she surrounded herself with people who would encourage her to persevere and seize the opportunities in front of her.

So here are some things to remember while writing that draft or handbook or curriculum or self-published book:

• See beyond the finished work. Know that one day it just may reach the audience that needs it.
• Surround yourself with people who will give honest and constructive feedback.
• Believe in your work! Know that what you say, what you write, is important and will benefit those who read it.
• Think about Frank Peretti and others who can inspire you to Never. Give. Up.